I asked my mom if she ever hit or spanked us when we were younger. I know it’s kind of a weird question to ask your mother, but I asked her anyway. I’ve read that it’s okay to hit a child as a form of discipline; however, there are also studies saying that hitting is not the right way to correct a naughty child. My mother told me that it is never right to hit or spank a child, especially if they are under 2 years old. Children that age usually mimic what adults do and may assume it’s acceptable to hit someone.
I’ve observed this with my 13-month-old niece. Her mom often tells her nanny that it’s alright to hit her baby’s hand if she’s being bad. So, the nanny does what she’s told. When my niece is naughty, the nanny hits her hand. Several weeks later, I noticed my niece starting to hit my baby while they were playing. That’s when I realized my mom was right. Thankfully, we don’t do that to our baby.
What worries me about having a child is the discipline aspect. First-time moms often struggle with this. We never know the best way to raise a well-behaved child without resorting to hitting. As a new parent, I researched other methods to help us raise a happy child—not a perfect one, but a child who won’t cause too much trouble and will grow up to be a good person.
Here are some short tips to raise a happy and disciplined baby:
Make some rules: It’s important to create rules and set limitations. Let your baby know that not everything is easily obtainable. They may be young, but they can understand you. Also, make it a habit to explain things whenever you impose discipline; this will benefit both of you and maintain a peaceful home.
Teach your child the art of decision-making: This can be a tough task that requires patience. Ask your child simple questions such as, “What clothes do you want to wear?” “What toys do you want to play with?” and “What foods do you want to eat?” You can also add the “why” question to help them figure out the do’s and don’ts.
Learn to ignore tantrums: Tantrums can be one of the most annoying things that babies and toddlers do. As a parent and an adult, you should learn how to control your emotions. Don’t let tantrums affect you. Instead, tell your child, “I know you are upset now; I’ll come back when you’re ready to talk,” and then walk away. Don’t watch your child during a tantrum, as this may prolong it.
Teach your child patience: This may seem difficult, but it’s manageable. Teach your child patience by making them wait whenever they ask for something. For example, if they want the comb you’re using, don’t hand it over right away. Instead, say “wait” and count silently to five. If your child waits without insisting, that’s a good start. Just keep practicing.
Celebrate your child’s acts of kindness: When your little one behaves well, let them know that mommy and daddy are happy with their behavior. Make it a celebration by treating them to their favorite food or something special. Be sure to explain why you are pleased with their good behavior.
Implementing these strategies will help improve your child’s emotional intelligence (EQ). This list is not exhaustive, but these are some of the most doable tips. If you have suggestions, comments, or feedback, feel free to hit the comment button. I’m excited to hear from you. Love lots!
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