I asked my mom if she ever hit or spank us when we were younger, I know it's kind of a weird question to ask your mother, but then I still asked her anyway. I have read that it's okay to hit a child as a way of discipline, however, there are also some studies saying that hitting is not the right way to straighten up a naughty child. My mother told me that it is never right to hit or spank a child especially if they are under 2 years old. They usually mimic what adults do and they assume it is alright to hit someone.
And I observed those things with my 13 months niece. Her mom always tell her nanny that it's alright to hit her baby's hand if she's being bad. So the nanny do what she was told. If there are instances she's being naughty, nanny hits her hand. Several weeks later, I saw that my niece is starting to hit my baby when they are playing. That's the time I realized that my mom was right. Good thing, we don't do that to our baby.
What worries me about having a child is when it comes to discipline, first time moms usually the ones who struggle a lot when it comes to this. We never know what to do how to raise a good baby without using any kind of hitting. As a new parent, I researched for other ways that will help us raise a happy and good baby, well not a perfect one, but a child that will not give so much pain and be a good person when he/she grows up.
Here are some short tips to raise a happy and disciplined baby:
1. Make some rules. It is important to create rules and a few limitations especially in some things. Let your baby know that not all things are easy to get whenever he/she wants it. They may be young but surely they can understand you. Also, make it a habit to explain things whenever you try to impose discipline, this will benefit both of you and keep a peaceful home.
2. Teach your child the art of decision making. This is quite a tough task to do. You need tons of patience in order to help your child do this. Ask your child simple questions such as what clothes they want to wear? what toys they want to play? What foods they want to eat? And you can also add the "why" question. This will help him to figure out the do's and don'ts.
3. Learn to ignore tantrums. It is one of the most annoying thing that babies and toddlers do. But as a parent and an adult, you should also learn how to control your emotions. Do not be affected of tantrums, instead tell your child this "I know you are upset now, I'll come back when you're ready to talk" then walk away. Don't watch your child doing the tantrums because they will not stop.
4. Teach your child patience. This may look like a difficult thing to do but it's not. We teach our baby patience by letting her wait whenever she asks for something. For example, he wants that comb you're using don't hand it easily instead say "wait" and count 1 to 5 (silently), if your child waits and did not insist, well that's a good start. Just keep practicing.
5. Celebrate your child's act of kindness. when your little one behaves well, make him feel that mommy and daddy are happy with what he's doing. So make it a time for celebration like treat him with his favorite food and the likes. Make sure to explain why you are happy with his good behavior.
Doing these things will help your child's EQ (Emotional Intelligence) to improve. These are not the complete list of disciplining a child but they are some of the most doable. If you have suggestions, comments or feedback just hit the comment button. I am excited to hear from you. Love lots!
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