I always dreamed of becoming a writer but it seems that writing doesn't like me. I suck when it comes to grammar. I know it takes a lot of practice especially when English is not my mother tongue. Thousands of ideas are clouding my thoughts everyday but when I write I can't seem to express the right words. There are still a lot of things I need to learn. Hopefully, you (my reader) will support me in this journey. No discrimination please. I know I still have a lot of flaws in grammar but I'm getting there. Thanks a lot for understanding. This blog will serve as my draft.
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Mortal Instruments - City of Bones + Jace = Super Cool!
Has anyone seen the movie Mortal Instruments: City of Bones? Has anyone noticed how hot Jace is? And Am I asking too much questions? Okay. I know the movie has been released recently, I think several months ago? Sorry I wasn't that updated about movies as I was before. You know when you're serious being a mom, you'll forget everything. Well almost. I know I know my hubby is adorable and everything, but I still appreciate the gorgeous creations in this world (lol). Anyway, I just want to share this giddiness to anyone interested to read this post. I can say I am now a big fan of this movie and the actors Jamie Campbell Bower and Lily Collins. I will definitely watch the sequel (City of Ashes). I'm planning to buy the books, however, I want to see Jace's face so I'll just wait for the part 2. :)
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Are you Thirtyphobic?
Are you thirtyphobic? Yes, you read that right. It is a fear of turning 30 or reaching the age of 30. Well, thirtyphobic is just a word I invented (peace) Anyway let's get serious. Many people especially girls are quite hesitant to embrace being 30. This is because 30 is considered as the first stage in aging according to some old notion. Well I think most of the people I know are afraid of getting old. The thousand anti-aging products and articles on how to delay aging are some of the few evidences that most people have fear in turning 30.
While there are people who don't make it a big deal, but you'll be surprise that others do. As for me, I am not afraid of it, it's part of our life and we have to accept the fact that we are going to get old, die and turn into ash. Instead of putting on anti aging creams on your face and body, you should just embrace it and be happy with yourself. According to Dailymail UK "a study carried out by Danish researchers, published in the Journal of Investigative Dermatology, found that rather than passing through the skin the liposomes break into pieces almost as soon as they make contact." In short, anti aging creams are not effective.
There's no problem in making yourself look good to at least hid the signs of aging but you must also focus your attention to some areas such as:
- Keeping a healthy lifestyle - lessen the eating of junk foods, fastfoods and the likes. You know what they do to your body - THEY MAKE YOU LOOK OLDER FAST.
- Remain positive and get rid of negative thoughts - If you want to avoid having stripes (wrinkles) on your face, stop stressing yourself out with unnecessary thoughts.
- Develop a group of friends that you can laugh with - make sure they don't bring you headaches and problems or else they will add more stress to your life, hence making you look older.
- Pray - Always talk to God. Maintain a good relationship with Him and you know you'll be fine even you get older. He will be your strength in times of fear and problems.
Be Happy - it's the best anti aging treatment. :)
Monday, October 21, 2013
How to Discipline a Naughty Child
I asked my mom if she ever hit or spank us when we were younger, I know it's kind of a weird question to ask your mother, but then I still asked her anyway. I have read that it's okay to hit a child as a way of discipline, however, there are also some studies saying that hitting is not the right way to straighten up a naughty child. My mother told me that it is never right to hit or spank a child especially if they are under 2 years old. They usually mimic what adults do and they assume it is alright to hit someone.
And I observed those things with my 13 months niece. Her mom always tell her nanny that it's alright to hit her baby's hand if she's being bad. So the nanny do what she was told. If there are instances she's being naughty, nanny hits her hand. Several weeks later, I saw that my niece is starting to hit my baby when they are playing. That's the time I realized that my mom was right. Good thing, we don't do that to our baby.
What worries me about having a child is when it comes to discipline, first time moms usually the ones who struggle a lot when it comes to this. We never know what to do how to raise a good baby without using any kind of hitting. As a new parent, I researched for other ways that will help us raise a happy and good baby, well not a perfect one, but a child that will not give so much pain and be a good person when he/she grows up.
Here are some short tips to raise a happy and disciplined baby:
1. Make some rules. It is important to create rules and a few limitations especially in some things. Let your baby know that not all things are easy to get whenever he/she wants it. They may be young but surely they can understand you. Also, make it a habit to explain things whenever you try to impose discipline, this will benefit both of you and keep a peaceful home.
2. Teach your child the art of decision making. This is quite a tough task to do. You need tons of patience in order to help your child do this. Ask your child simple questions such as what clothes they want to wear? what toys they want to play? What foods they want to eat? And you can also add the "why" question. This will help him to figure out the do's and don'ts.
3. Learn to ignore tantrums. It is one of the most annoying thing that babies and toddlers do. But as a parent and an adult, you should also learn how to control your emotions. Do not be affected of tantrums, instead tell your child this "I know you are upset now, I'll come back when you're ready to talk" then walk away. Don't watch your child doing the tantrums because they will not stop.
4. Teach your child patience. This may look like a difficult thing to do but it's not. We teach our baby patience by letting her wait whenever she asks for something. For example, he wants that comb you're using don't hand it easily instead say "wait" and count 1 to 5 (silently), if your child waits and did not insist, well that's a good start. Just keep practicing.
5. Celebrate your child's act of kindness. when your little one behaves well, make him feel that mommy and daddy are happy with what he's doing. So make it a time for celebration like treat him with his favorite food and the likes. Make sure to explain why you are happy with his good behavior.
Doing these things will help your child's EQ (Emotional Intelligence) to improve. These are not the complete list of disciplining a child but they are some of the most doable. If you have suggestions, comments or feedback just hit the comment button. I am excited to hear from you. Love lots!
Monday, October 7, 2013
How to Teach Your One year old to Read
Hey there. I haven't posted for a long time because of my very hectic home life, but anyway, I am excited to share this post to all moms. It's about teaching your child how to read or speak, not specifically to be fluent but to at least give them a starting point in language.
As a first time mom, my guide to motherhood includes the elder's advices like my mom, mother-in-law, even the grandparents and friends. But no matter how abundant I am with guidance and advices from experienced people, I still feel like I am lacking of knowledge when it comes to being a mother, hence, I also run to other sources such as books, magazines and internet, providing me with other information that I haven't learned from the others. From reading the mother's forums and discussion, I came across a topic discussing about teaching toddlers how to read and speak. With this, I tried some of the suggestions I have learned.
I started noticing my baby so hooked up with nursery rhymes and phonics during her early months, I think she's 5 months that time when we started to let her watch baby phonics. She doesn't even cry or ask for attention while she's in that mode. Few months later, she started to recognize objects, but the words are not clear yet. At one year old, she can speak more words than any other kids her age.
Here's what we did, just want to share maybe you'll be interested to try for your child.
1. Watch phonics or nursery rhymes, specifically baby channels teaching ABC's, sounds, colors and the likes. We let our baby watch at least an hour a day during her early months but as she grows up, she spend more hours a day watching phonics and nursery rhymes. Take note of their favorites and let them watch it everyday, repeatedly so they will absorb what is taught from that video. Remember, they are like sponge absorbing what they see and hear. And the more they hear, they will easily pick up and remember the words. Some recommended baby channels are Super Simple Songs, Songs for Children, and Mother Goose Club. Reminder: You have to be with your child whenever he or she is at the front of the TV or a computer to guide and explain everything what is showed.
2. Read books with your baby everyday. This needs a lot of patience since not all young children wants to listen and read books. Look for the perfect timing like when they are in the mood. Do not force your child to read. I see a lot of parents pressure their child to learn many things. Remember, pressuring and over stimulation is bad for your child, it may greatly affect the learning.
3. Conduct a recitation. When my baby was one year old, we have this routine to ask her speak a word. And she is happily participating. However, just like reading, it also takes time and needs more patience.
4. Be an example. If you want your child to focus on learning, show him or her that you are also enjoying learning like showing them that you're reading a book, writing etc.
5. Exposing to real objects. A child easily absorbs what they have learned from phonics if they can see or touch it in real life. There are companies selling educational tools along with nursery rhymes, so the babies can not only listen but also to feel the objects. Grolier is one of the good example. But they are a bit expensive. If you want, you can make some DIY objects to partner it with their favorite nursery rhymes.
6. Let them play. Yes, this is important. Playing is an essential part of childhood. It gives your child a freedom to be with the other kids, to be himself and explore. Remember, through playing, your child can learn many things. Just make sure the play area is child proof.
So far, these are just some of the doable ways we've done to our baby. Hope it helps. Please share your experiences and techniques in teaching your child. Hit the comment box.
As a first time mom, my guide to motherhood includes the elder's advices like my mom, mother-in-law, even the grandparents and friends. But no matter how abundant I am with guidance and advices from experienced people, I still feel like I am lacking of knowledge when it comes to being a mother, hence, I also run to other sources such as books, magazines and internet, providing me with other information that I haven't learned from the others. From reading the mother's forums and discussion, I came across a topic discussing about teaching toddlers how to read and speak. With this, I tried some of the suggestions I have learned.
I started noticing my baby so hooked up with nursery rhymes and phonics during her early months, I think she's 5 months that time when we started to let her watch baby phonics. She doesn't even cry or ask for attention while she's in that mode. Few months later, she started to recognize objects, but the words are not clear yet. At one year old, she can speak more words than any other kids her age.
Here's what we did, just want to share maybe you'll be interested to try for your child.
1. Watch phonics or nursery rhymes, specifically baby channels teaching ABC's, sounds, colors and the likes. We let our baby watch at least an hour a day during her early months but as she grows up, she spend more hours a day watching phonics and nursery rhymes. Take note of their favorites and let them watch it everyday, repeatedly so they will absorb what is taught from that video. Remember, they are like sponge absorbing what they see and hear. And the more they hear, they will easily pick up and remember the words. Some recommended baby channels are Super Simple Songs, Songs for Children, and Mother Goose Club. Reminder: You have to be with your child whenever he or she is at the front of the TV or a computer to guide and explain everything what is showed.
2. Read books with your baby everyday. This needs a lot of patience since not all young children wants to listen and read books. Look for the perfect timing like when they are in the mood. Do not force your child to read. I see a lot of parents pressure their child to learn many things. Remember, pressuring and over stimulation is bad for your child, it may greatly affect the learning.
3. Conduct a recitation. When my baby was one year old, we have this routine to ask her speak a word. And she is happily participating. However, just like reading, it also takes time and needs more patience.
4. Be an example. If you want your child to focus on learning, show him or her that you are also enjoying learning like showing them that you're reading a book, writing etc.
5. Exposing to real objects. A child easily absorbs what they have learned from phonics if they can see or touch it in real life. There are companies selling educational tools along with nursery rhymes, so the babies can not only listen but also to feel the objects. Grolier is one of the good example. But they are a bit expensive. If you want, you can make some DIY objects to partner it with their favorite nursery rhymes.
6. Let them play. Yes, this is important. Playing is an essential part of childhood. It gives your child a freedom to be with the other kids, to be himself and explore. Remember, through playing, your child can learn many things. Just make sure the play area is child proof.
So far, these are just some of the doable ways we've done to our baby. Hope it helps. Please share your experiences and techniques in teaching your child. Hit the comment box.
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